Will You Be My Bridesmaid?

Betty found this the other day while she was cleaning. I was only 14 years old when I made this for my friends. (How am I twice the age already?!) She asked me if I wrote the poem. I told her, “I don’t think so, seems really deep for high school…” She said “I know, I don’t think I grasped the beauty of that poem back then.” I googled the poem and of course, it’s titled Serenity. Some things never change.

I consider myself lucky to have an amazing group of girlfriends who I have known since high school (besides my sister). That’s 15 years of friendship! It was shocking to read wedding forums where brides would advise to not to ask your friends to be your bridesmaids early “because you never know.” There’s no question and doubts for me though; 20 months out, 2 years out, 5..they’d still be in my life. Asking them to be part of my wedding day was for formality. They already knew. Before I “officially” proposed, we had already started a group wedding Pinterest board and one of them even bought her bridesmaid dress already.

Hence, the opening line on my card to them started with: Forever started with you long ago before I met David.

I spent a lot of time crafting the bridesmaid/maids of honor proposals. I wanted it to be very special and meaningful. The process was creative, fun and reflective for me. It was a good breather away from planning wedding logistics. It allowed me to slow down and express my appreciation for each of them.


The Gifts

Handwritten card with photo magnet (via Shutterfly)

DSC04555Purple, sparkles, and heart everywhere

DSC04531Engraved vintage jewelry box (via Personalization Mall)

ringsHandmade rings out of clay (via me!)

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The whole package with a mini booklet that includes:
“Wedding Day” details
“My Girls” contact information
“Your Dress” swatches
“Grateful for You” note


I sent my designs to print on 4×6 matte photo paper (via Walmart) and looped the pages with wire.
P.S. I still chuckle with having both Michelle and Ly in my permanent name.


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Michelle lives in Korea, so I asked her online before everyone else.
I was nervous, shaky, and so corny when I was reading her what I wrote in her card!
She got teary after my declaration of love and I exclaimed, “So is that a yes?!” 


As for the rest, it was a rare weekend for almost all of us to be back in San Jose-
I was in town from Boise, Betty from Orange County, and Ly from Redding.
We met at LK Tea & Grill, which had pretty flowers arranged on a white table,
like they knew in advance this moment was about to happen.


“It’s Official!”

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It was the first time my friends had seen me since I was engaged less than two months ago.
I’m so happy that we were able to get together over brunch. The”wedding talks” were fun,
but celebrating US and our many years of friendship meant so much to me. I love them!

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  • Reply
    February 13, 2016 at 11:57 am

    This is cute, Jessica!! & it was nice to see you last weekend!

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      February 16, 2016 at 1:30 pm

      Aw thank you Lam!! You’re so sweet <3. It was wonderful seeing you too! I'm excited for the upcoming big moments that will occur in your future too ;).

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    Jane Nguyen
    February 18, 2016 at 1:05 pm

    Love your blog, Walden West bunk mate!
    And Congratulations on the engagement, and all your bridesmaids =)

    • Reply
      February 19, 2016 at 12:00 am

      From little 5th graders to married women…Thanks Jane! :)

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